A House Full of Wonders - Part 3: When Old Stories Knock – And It’s Time to Open the Door

In my last post, I talked about how we often prefer to suppress unpleasant emotions and memories rather than facing them with courage. If you missed the last post, you can catch up here: Link to Blog.

In my younger years, I experienced developmental trauma that—along with numerous limiting beliefs—deeply wounded my self-worth. I constantly tried to please those around me, meeting expectations without ever truly learning how to set boundaries. No wonder—I didn’t even know what my own boundaries were. Because of this, I struggled greatly in my relationships, both with myself and with others. And so, for a very long time, I kept singing the "You complete me" song.

Even in my Enneagram Type 6 pattern, I found myself on the lower end of the spectrum. I was overly loyal and constantly sought security in the external world. I no longer knew who I truly was or what my own heart desired.

My body had become nothing more than an empty vessel.

Emotional eating didn’t help. My lack of self-worth could not be satisfied through this attempt at control.

If my body were a house, I had locked myself away in its darkest basement for many precious years of my life. My body kept giving me signs, but I ignored them. I simply didn’t trust it.

In 2023, I actively began exploring bodywork, getting to know my own body, and stepping into its incredible spaces. That was a turning point. Through bodywork, I discovered vibrant rooms within me, filled with warmth, magic, and countless melodies spanning exciting music genres. But there were also rooms I didn’t dare to enter—because I feared what was inside.

Yet, this "content" kept knocking on the door—again and again—until I finally opened it.

And I knew:

If I truly wanted to move forward in life, I had to go through it somehow.

So I started looking inward, facing what had been blocking me time and again. This process took immense courage and countless tears, but something beautiful emerged. I filled my body and soul with love. Love for myself.

I also met my best friend within—someone I now regularly “date” 😊. Learning to recognize my own boundaries, with all their YES’s and NO’s (including the vocabulary to express them), was life-changing for me.

Bodywork was the gateway to this beautiful new world within me—where I finally feel at home.

If these topics resonate with you, I would love to hear about your own experiences. Feel free to reach out and share your thoughts!

Which inner spaces within you are waiting to be explored? Which doors are worth opening with courage?

With warmth

Caroline